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My breaking heart

Updated: Jun 2


Photo credit: 愚木混株

This is not how it's supposed to be. I thought that 'doing the work', 'ascending', and 'following the call of the Spirit' was supposed to make life easier, lighter, more joyful and abundant. So where is it? Where's nirvana? Where's New Earth? Where's my enlightened tribe? Why instead does my heart hurt. Why do I feel sobs fighting to escape from my tightened chest. Why do I feel a grumbling primal roar grumbling in my belly. Why am I looking around me as if with fresh eyes, waking from a sedated state, looking at people and places and objects, feeling like I don't belong, like I'm detached from it all. Watching in horror as relationships fade, dissolve, and fall away from my life like mist rolling off the edges of a cliff.


I feel like I am standing in a room, floating in space. A bright red door behind me which represents all I have ever been and all I have ever known about myself. Somehow I know it's a door that I can't return to. At my feet I sense solid ground, ahead of me ethereal mist. Perhaps a yellow door or two, but no clear way forward. I am hesitant, fearful, feel my heart pounding in my chest. I feel a force within howling, raging, beating fists, fighting against the winds of change with all I've got. And yet, with each deep breath a stillness comes.. Like walking into the woods in the early morning, stepping out onto the banks of the river at dusk, or slipping beneath the oily waters of the lake of your consciousness during meditation. That moment of pause, of delicate hesitation, before the inevitable burst of life and activity that signals a new cycle of life has begun.


I know what I have to do. I know what my Ego is railing against. I need to simply let go and step forwards. Because this is the new way. There are no obvious preset stepping stones to follow in logical sequence. That was my old life. Now the uncertainty is part of the trust. Step forward into the mist and the way, the tribe, the trail angels, gateways, portals, and golden threads of synchronicity will start to appear. But none of that can happen until I make the first move. It all starts with me. There are angels and guides ready to help, but it all starts with me. Spirit lies coiled, twitching, waiting for my awareness to shine a light on Her, but it all starts with me. My divinity, my purpose, my potential all suspended, poised in mid air, until I give the signal that I'm ready.


When your heart hurts so much you can't stand the pain and the torment of being in this body, in this situation, in this lifetime, and you just want to go home, that's the sign. That's the time you know change is coming. You just need to ask and to be open to what comes. Because what comes will inevitably be very different from what is falling away. It has to be. But we're afraid that if we let go we'll be left alone, irrevocably broken, sifting through the unrecognisable rubble of our lives trying to salvage what we can. But in the sifting and the sorting, shiny bits will sparkle and catch your attention. Shards of rock will make you smile as you cradle them in your hands. Gems will fashion themselves into works of art, and loving bodies will emerge out of the swirling dust to help expand the mosaic of the new you. It's all possible. All happening now in the realm of realities. But it all starts with you...



 

The Anatomy of Peace

by John Roedel


my brain and

heart divorced

a decade ago


over who was

to blame about

how big of a mess

I have become


eventually,

they couldn't be

in the same room

with each other


now my head and heart

share custody of me


I stay with my brain during the week

and my heart gets me on weekends


they never speak to one another

- instead, they give me

the same note to pass

to each other every week


and their notes they

send to one another always

say the same thing:


"This is all your fault"


on Sundays

my heart complains

about how my

head has let me down

in the past


and on Wednesdays

my head lists all

of the times my

heart has screwed

things up for me

in the future


they blame each

other for the

state of my life


there's been a lot

of yelling and crying


so,


lately, I've been

spending a lot of

time with my gut

who serves as my

unofficial therapist


most nights, I sneak out of the

window in my ribcage

and slide down my spine

and collapse on my

gut's plush leather chair

that's always open for me


- and I just sit sit sit sit

until the sun comes up


last evening,

my gut asked me

if I was having a hard

time being caught

between my heart

and my head


I nodded


I said I didn't know

if I could life with

either of them anymore


"my heart is always sad about

something that happened

yesterday

while my head is always worried

about something that may happen

tomorrow,"

I lamented


my gut squeezed my hand


"I just can't live with

my mistakes of the past

or my anxiety about the future,:

I sighed


my gut smiled and said:


"in that case,

you should

go stay with your

lungs for a while,"


I was confused

- the look on my face gave it

away


"if you are exhausted about

your heart's obsession with

the fixed past and your mind's

focus

on the uncertain future

your lungs are the perfect place for you


there is no yesterday in your

lungs

there is no tomorrow there either


there is only now

there is only inhale

there is only exhale

there is only this moment

there is only breath


and in that breath

you can rest while your

heart and head work

their relationship out."


this morning,

while my brain

was busy reading

tea leaves


and while my

heart was staring

at old photographs


I packed a little

bag and walked

to the door of

my lungs


before I could even knock

she opened the door

with a smile as

a gust of air embraced me

she said


"what took you so long?"

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